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A Small Pause

If you have been with me so far, you have probably discerned that I am pretty passionate about simplifying, organizing, and making life easier.  I’ve given you some practical ways to make various complicated systems more simple, and I’ve gone into great detail about why I do what I do.

My intention this week was to write a post about how to simplify back-to-school, and I do think there are some good and easy ways to do that, but as I was listening to my husband preach last Sunday, I realized that I needed to take a deep breath and talk about issues of the heart before I move on to more of the day-to-day practical stuff.

It’s just possible that you are there too.  This is a crazy time of year, especially for those of us who are parents.  That’s true whether your kids go to public school, or private school, or are homeschooled.  Getting used to a new schedule filled with school and sports and activities can be difficult.  We’re all trying to get back into getting up early again, and there are lunchboxes and school supplies and sports gear and backpacks to keep track of.  If you are anything like me, you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed by it all.

Maybe next year I’ll write the simplifying September post, but right now I feel like we all need a deep breath, a time of reflection, a pause.

At our little country church, we are going through the book of Romans.  If you haven’t ever done a study through this amazing book, I highly recommend it.  The apostle Paul gives us a lot of understanding about our daily struggle against sin and the flesh, and then explains how Jesus’ death and resurrection sets us free from all of that.  He encourages us to live in unity with one another and shows us how to live a life of faith and obedience.

Last week, we were in Chapter 8, verses 1-9.  My husband’s sermon was really encouraging (I’m sure I’m not biased!), and I learned a lot; but right in the middle he made a small statement that hit my heart, and I felt it was important to share it with you.

By the way, as an aside, if you’re not taking notes during church, I really encourage you to do so.  It’s entirely possible that God wants to speak to you through the Sunday morning service, and you are going to want to remember what He’s told you.  Sometimes it’s the words of the worship songs that really hit me, and sometimes it’s something said in the sermon.  Occasionally, someone encourages me during the greeting time!  However God chooses to speak to me, I want to remember it, so I have a notebook I take with me to church, and I take notes as I go.  Please consider doing the same.

Anyway, here is what God said to me on Sunday:  We need to allow God to change us from the inside out.

Okay, I know it sounds unremarkable, but stay with me.

Obviously, this is a key understanding of our faith: it’s not what we do on the outside that justifies us, but what God has done on the inside through His Son.  Because He willingly sacrificed Himself for us and paid for our sins, we can be given a new heart. 2 Cor. 5:17 puts it this way:  “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.  The old has passed away; behold, the new has come!” (ESV).  And Galatians 2:20 says:  ‘I have been crucified with Christ.  It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me.  And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.”  (ESV).  He changes us on the inside, and that is reflected on the outside through our actions.

But when Darryl said that one little phrase, I was struck immediately by the fact that it applies to so many areas of my life, and I was convicted that I have been talking in this little blog about the outside without first encouraging you to change the inside.

See, you can set up all the best organizing systems and create routines and work to develop great habits, but without an inside change, it’s not going to stick.  I’m sure you’ve experienced this in other areas of your life.  One that’s really common is weight loss: you can try all the best diets or exercise programs, but until there’s an internal shift in your thinking, you either won’t be able to stick to them or you’ll eventually regain all the weight.

The same is true for simplifying and organizing.  I really do believe these things can change your life by creating a more peaceful environment and by freeing up space in your home and your brain to focus on what’s most important.  But if you don’t first have a mindset shift, it won’t last; and you’ll end up in a worse place than before, because you will know what it feels like to live a more simple life but look around and see only chaos.  I don’t want that for you.

So we are pausing here to focus on the inside change. We need to stop, and ask God to change us from the inside out.

I’m so grateful that I serve a God who cares about my day-to-day life.  He understands when I’m feeling overwhelmed and stressed out, and He wants to help me.  He wants to help you, too.  If you really want to live more simply, if you think it will help you to be a better parent, a better employee, a better friend; if you want to set priorities and make choices that reflect what you truly think is important, you can ask Him for help.  Ask Him to change you from the inside out.  Push pause on the practical stuff, and just spend some time letting Him change you.  You can always go back and change the outside stuff: meal planning, using a planner, organizing a drawer or two.  Your heart is more important.

So even though this is a crazy time of year, I am encouraging you to pause.  Spend some time in prayer.  Study your Bible.  Ask God to change you from the inside out.  Tell Him you need help.  Let His peace wash over you.  Don’t worry about the external until you have dealt with the internal.

I hope that you have a great week of peace.  My prayer is that my words help you, not cause you more stress.  Please take some time with the Lord this week, asking Him to change your heart, and let me know in the comments what He is teaching you.  And if you don’t know the love and forgiveness of the Savior yet, and would like more information, please reach out in the comments or through email.  I would love to introduce you to Him!

Blessings, Mindy.

 

 

 

 

Simplify spending time in God’s Word

Hey, listen: if you consider yourself a follower of Jesus, you absolutely need to be spending time in God’s Word.  You need to know Him and hear from Him, and in order to do that, you need to be regularly studying your Bible.

Let me tell you, I have no intention of laying a guilt trip on anyone.  I know what it’s like to feel like you don’t have even a minute to spare.  I know what it’s like to go days, weeks, months without cracking open my Bible.  I love Jesus, but there have definitely been times in my life when I wasn’t spending time with Him or in His Word.  I get it.  No judgement.

If you are anything like me, the longer you go without studying your Bible, the harder it becomes.  You feel guilty, and you’ve missed so much of your reading plan, and you don’t even know where your notebook is where you were writing down what you learned, and every day that goes by just makes it that much harder.

I think that sometimes we just overcomplicate it, to tell you the truth.  We feel like our time has to be formal, and we need to read a whole bunch in order to really get something out of it.

The whole Bible, in its entirety, is important.  Every Word is inspired and intentional.  I do recommend that you find a reading plan that takes you through the whole Bible, and when you’ve finished, start again, and again, and again.  Don’t worry if you miss a day or seventy-two.  Jump right back in and continue where you left off.  I like to do this one-year reading (which commonly takes me several years) at night before I sleep, so that I am thinking about the Word as I drift off.

But for your everyday, regular reading and studying time, I’d like to suggest a simple method that will give you something to meditate on every single day.  A way to be in God’s Word daily and hear His voice and know His instructions to you.  It’s called the SOAP method.

I learned about this method about 20 years ago from my pastor, and I’ve adapted it to my own use.  I like it because it gives me a clear way to look at a scripture and hear what God is speaking directly to me through that scripture.

SOAP is an acronym that stands for Scripture, Observation, Application, and Prayer.  Let me tell you how it works.

First, you will need a couple of tools.  I recommend a notebook that is just for your personal Bible study time, kept right where you will use it each day.  You’ll also need a pen, of course; and a “verse of the day” program or website or app or book.  I have the Bible app on my phone, and each day it gives me, on the homepage, the verse of the day.  Tell you the truth, I don’t know who chooses what the day’s verse is, and it doesn’t really matter.  I like that they come from both the New and Old Testaments, from the books of poetry, and gospels, and prophecy, and law.  There are lots of websites that will send you a daily verse if you subscribe, and books you can get that have a verse for every day of the year.  (I don’t prefer the books, because you would repeat verses you’ve already studied unless you are willing to buy a new book each year.)

So let’s say you’ve found your source for a daily verse.  Schedule a time every day to sit down with your Bible.  I know it’s hard.  I know you’re busy and you don’t have any extra time.  But I’m telling you, with everything I have in me, that you NEED this.

A quick aside, if you will allow me.  I plan to write an entire post about this in the coming weeks, but let me give you a little preview of something I’ve learned: routines create habits, and habits are sustained by routines.  What I mean by this is that whether you realize it or not, you are in some kind of routine in your life.  It may be that your routine is to wake up when your kids start making noise each morning and then frantically run around trying to get things done all day long, falling into bed at the end.  Or perhaps your routine is that the moment you wake up, you stumble into the kitchen to make a cup of coffee and jump into the shower, barely getting ready in time to get out the door.  These routines have caused you to develop habits, and every time you practice your routine you solidify your habits.

But you can change your habits by changing your routines.  It won’t be easy, because your habits have become deeply ingrained; but it can be done.  What you have to do is to develop new routines that circumvent those old habits and create new ones.

Let me give you an example.  Let’s say you spend five minutes each morning looking for your keys.  You do this because your evening routine has been to set your keys down in whatever place you happen to set them, and that is a different place every day.  If you want to develop the habit of always putting your keys in the bowl on the entryway table, you need to develop a new routine.  That routine looks like this: no matter what I’m carrying, no matter which door I came in, rain or shine, I always, always walk to the entry way and put my keys in the bowl before I do anything else.  Always.  You tell yourself this is your new routine, and you practice it over and over and over again until it becomes your habit, and voila!  You no longer spend any time in the morning looking for your keys, because they are always in the bowl.

The same concept applies to spending time in God’s Word.  You have to develop a routine that includes Bible study time, and practice it over and over again until it becomes a habit.  I recommend finding a way to make this a morning routine, so that you set off on your day with your spiritual cup filled, but if that absolutely can’t happen, find another time during the day.  Develop a routine that will sustain your habit of studying your Bible.

So, now you have your tools, and you have some time set aside.  Now it’s time to SOAP.

SCRIPTURE

You start by opening up your Bible, or your app, or your book, to the verse of the day.  Read it through once, and then get out your notebook.  Write the date at the top of a new page, and then write the day’s Scripture at the top of the page.  Write out the whole verse and the reference.  Don’t skip this part.  There’s something about writing it out that helps it to stick in your brain.  As you write, focus on the words and the meaning.  Read it out loud as you write if you feel comfortable doing so.  This is the S.

OBSERVATION

Next, you are going to write your Observation.  Just things you notice.

Let me give you an example from my own study.  My verse today is Psalm 119:105: Your Word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.  Here are my observations:

Your Word is a lamp.  A lamp provides light.  It makes things easier to see.  I can turn it on, or I can turn it off.  Oil lamp: I can light it, or snuff it out.  It illuminates what I need to see.  It makes my room light so I don’t trip and fall.  It is a lamp to my feet.  It’s shining directly where my feet are going.  It makes it safe to walk where I’m supposed to.  I carry it with me, if it’s an oil lamp like in Old Testament times, so I never have to be without it.  A lamp is something I control.  A light, though, like from the sun, is a gift from God to me.  It illuminates not just my feet but also the whole path ahead of me. God’s word is both a lamp and a light.  I carry it with me, and it’s a gift He gives.

I bet you have read or heard that verse a hundred times, but if you haven’t taken the time to observe what it’s saying, maybe it hasn’t penetrated your heart like it needs to.  Write down everything you observe in the verse.  Don’t worry about spelling, or punctuation, or grammar; just write what you see.

APPLICATION

Then it’s time for Application.  What is this verse saying directly to you, right now, in your situation?  Here is what I wrote:

I don’t want to snuff out the lamp.  I need to keep it burning all day and night, all the time, by continuing to feed it.  An oil lamp needs to be refilled; my lamp is filled when I spend time in God’s Word and prayer.  I carry His Word with me if I have planted it in my heart.  He also gives me light; He illuminates my path ahead through His Word, both through reading the Bible and spending time in prayer.  He will show me the right path in every situation through His Word.

Do you see the difference between observation and application?  Observation is neutral, just the things you see.   Application is God speaking directly to you and telling you how to apply this scripture in your life and your situation.

PRAYER

End by writing down your prayer regarding what you learned.  Pray for the strength to do what He has shown you He wants you to do.  Thank Him for revealing His heart to you.  Whatever God leads you to pray, write it down.  And take it to the Lord and spend time in prayer.

Now, I like to add one more step.  You know the post on planners is coming, and here’s yet another preview of how your planner can change your life.  I like to take my planner and write the verse in today’s spot.  If it’s particularly long, I’ll write just the reference, but I try to get the whole verse in.  Then, as I look in my planner throughout the day, I am reminded of what God showed me in my time with Him, and the lessons go even deeper into my heart.  If you are trying to memorize more scripture, this is a good way to accomplish it too, because you are reading the verse over and over throughout the day.

And there you have it: the SOAP method of daily Bible study.  Now, I think there’s definitely time to study things more in-depth, and other reading to do, such as reading all the way through the Bible, as mentioned above.  But if you are looking for a way to get God’s Word into your heart and mind on a daily basis, SOAP can be a very powerful way to do that.

What do you think?  Are you ready to try to develop a habit of daily Bible study?  Let me know in the comments if you’ve tried it and if this method worked for you.

Blessings, Mindy

 

Simplify Meal Planning and Grocery Shopping

Hold on to your hats, people.  This is a big one.

If your family is anything like mine, food takes up a big portion of your budget…..and shopping, cooking, and thinking about food takes up a huge amount of your bandwidth.

I have a large family, so I have always been focused on how to create large meals that will fill everyone up without breaking the bank.  But even if there are only a few people in your household, food is hard to simplify.  I hope to give you some tips and hope today.

I want to start by telling you that my system has been heavily influenced by Amy Dacyczyn.  If you haven’t heard of her, you need to look her up, because she was the simple living guru of my generation.  She started a little newsletter called The Tightwad Gazette, all about–you guessed it–how to save money and live frugally.  That spiraled into books and speaking engagements and magazine articles.  Some of her ideas were, and remain, a little out there; but no one can deny that she knew what she wanted and did what she needed to do to get there.  Rumor has it she’s living the dream in rural Maine.

Anyway, I read (and read, and re-read) her books and gleaned a lot of wisdom from them, and the one concept that I learned from her that I still use today is what she called “The Pantry Principle.”  I adapted it to my own style and it’s the method I’m going to teach you now.

Here is how I simplify meal planning and grocery shopping:

STEP 1: Decide what it is your family eats.

This seems basic, but I find it’s the hardest part.  It’s difficult to give up the dream of being a great cook.  I love recipes and trying new things in the kitchen, but there are really only a few things that I make that everyone eats and enjoys.  We really are creatures of habit, and there’s no reason to fix something that isn’t broken, especially if the things your family likes are healthy and balanced. (Side note: not everything has to be!  If you occasionally make tater tots and fish sticks, put that on the list!).  Make your list of things your family actually, really, truly eats.  This isn’t the time to pretend you are someone you’re not.  You will probably find that your meal list is shorter than you expected.  I suspect most families probably cycle through only 10-12 meals on a regular basis.

Make lists for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.  Some lists may be shorter than others; I find that dinner takes up the most space.  Your kids might eat lunch at school, or you may grab a sandwich every day from the place next to work, or whatever.  This isn’t a list of what you WISH your family ate, but WHAT THEY ACTUALLY EAT.  No guilt.  No judgement, of yourself or others.

Here is my list:

BREAKFAST:

oatmeal

cereal and milk

eggs, scrambled and fried

toast

pancakes (weekends)

bacon (weekends)

smoothies

LUNCH:

kids eat at school

salad with chicken

soup

sandwiches

DINNER:

fried rice with chicken

spaghetti and meatballs

chicken and potato curry on rice

tacos/taco bowls

lasagna

turkey/mashed potatoes

barbequed burgers/chips

stir fry over rice

pancakes and bacon (yep, breakfast night once in a while)

pizza

SNACKS/OTHER:

coffee

creamer

cheese sticks

fruit snacks

kombucha

seltzer water

crystal light (in water bottles)

apples

bananas

oranges

m&ms

protein shakes

cereal bars

microwave popcorn

peanut butter

Now, this isn’t an exhaustive list; I have given you an abbreviated one from my own life to use as an example.  You will want to write down every single thing your family regularly eats.  If you only come up with six dinners that you like, who cares?  As long as your family is happy, why try to change it?

So now we move on to the next step:

STEP 2: make a list of all the ingredients that go into each and every meal.

I’m not going to do my whole list, because that would take up too much of this post, but let’s look at my list for the dinners above.  Don’t leave any parts out!

rice  (W)

frozen chicken chunks  (W)

soy sauce  (C)

Chinese five spice powder  (W)

frozen peas  (W)

frozen corn  (W)

frozen carrot pieces  (W)

vegetable oil  (W)

spaghetti noodles  (W)

frozen meatballs  (C)

pasta sauce  (W)

curry sauce  (W)

potatoes  (W) *

coconut milk  (W)

frozen ground beef  (C)

taco seasoning  (C)

salsa  (W)

grated cheese  (C)

sour cream  (W) *

pinto beans (can)  (W)

avocado  (W) *

tortillas  (W)

frozen lasagna  (C)

turkey  (W) (seasonal)

jar gravy  (W)

frozen hamburger patties  (C)

hamburger buns  (W) *

pickles  (W)

tomatoes  (W) *

ketchup  (W)

mustard  (W)

mayonnaise  (W)

lettuce  (W) *

frozen stir fry vegetables  (C)

pancake mix  (C)

bacon  (C)

eggs  (W) *

syrup  (W)

You’ll notice that I didn’t put anything on the list more than once, even though it may be used in more than one meal.  For instance, I use frozen chicken chunks in both my fried rice and my curry dish, but I only put it on the list when I put the ingredients for the fried rice, and skipped it when I got to curry, because it was already on the list.  You may want to put a tally mark next to an ingredient each time it’s repeated so you know how much you need.  As a bonus, I actually put my list into a Word document and then sort it alphabetically and in columns, so I have one page of the items my pantry needs to have stocked to be able to make any of the meals on my meal list.

STEP 3:  Go through your list and decide which store you will purchase each item from.

In my case, I really only have two stores I frequent:  Winco (W) and Costco (C).  I’ve already marked my list with which things I purchase where.

Now, I want to pause and give you a little warning about Costco.  I love Costco, and I find that the savings benefit is worth the membership each year, BUT it can be a very dangerous place.  Some things are a really good buy, and some things are just higher quality than any other place, so I’m willing to pay a little more.  But it’s easy to get caught up in the low-looking prices and the sheer number of wonderful things on offer.  If your goal is to save money, either go in with a friend who can keep you accountable to only buy the things on your list, or find another place to shop.  Really!

You’ll notice some of my items also have an asterisk next to them.  These are things that don’t keep very long and so must be purchased in the week they’re going to be used.  More on that in a minute.

STEP 4:  Go through your pantry and see which things you already have in stock; plan to build up your inventory of the rest.

Your goal, you see, is to always have the ingredients on hand to make the majority of the meals on your list at a moment’s notice.  These are things you know your family will eat, and things you could make in your sleep.  Let’s be honest, we all have days where we have planned to make something specific, and when dinnertime comes, we’re just not feeling it.  That’s the time to pull out one of the old standbys and whip something up quick.

This is where the Pantry Principle comes into play.  Instead of planning for meals for the week and then going out and buying the ingredients needed, we are going to do exactly the opposite: stock the pantry regularly with the items you need to feed your family, and THEN plan what meals you will make that week.

In my case, I go to Costco monthly and stock up on the things I regularly purchase there.  (A freezer is a very helpful tool for this!)  Then I make a weekly trip to Winco, where I stock up on the pantry items.

STEP 5:  look at your week and make a meal plan.

Before the weekly shopping trip, I sit down with my planner.  Oh friends, I can’t wait to talk about planners…..but that’s for another day.  Anyway, I look at the week ahead and jot down from my list of tried and true meals what I think we will probably have for dinner that week, taking special note of our schedule and how much time I’ll have for cooking each day.  (Side note: I don’t generally plan for breakfast or lunch.  My kids make their own and/or get it at school, and I grab whatever I’m hungry for.  But if you are regularly cooking those meals for your family, put them in your plan.)  Then I note any ingredients that have to be purchased fresh because they won’t keep (asterisk items above), and make sure to put those on my list for the week.

This is where I veer from Amy’s method a bit.  I do think it’s important to have at least a loose plan of what we will eat, at least for dinner, each week.  I look at what our family is up to and decide if I want to do something in the crock pot, or in the air fryer, or if there’s a day I can assign one of my kids to do some of the preparation, or whatever.  I don’t find it simple to wait until nearly dinnertime and then decide what to make, even if I know I have the ingredients in my pantry and freezer that I need to make most of the meals we regularly eat.  If I wait until evening, the simple thing is to order take-out, and that is a budget-buster!  It also keeps us from eating healthy most of the time.  We are trying to simplify and make it easier to plan and prepare meals that work for our families, and planning ahead makes that possible.

STEP 6:  Add one new meal each month if you have the time and energy.

I love recipes and I often see something that looks like it may fit my family, but I don’t want to add the inventory for that meal to my pantry until I’m sure it’s something we may put into regular rotation.  So my solution is to try it once.  I add the ingredients to my list for the week and cook it up on a day that I have extra time for thinking and cooking.  Sometimes it’s a hit, in which case I add it again the next month to see if it really stands up to family scrutiny.  If it does, I add it to my list and its ingredients to my pantry list and put it into regular rotation.  Sometimes it’s a bust, so I throw out the leftovers and move on!  (Just kidding.  My husband will almost always eat leftovers, no matter what the meal was.  I try not to waste food.)  Don’t feel bad if you didn’t hit on a winner this month.  You only bought enough to prepare it once, so you haven’t wasted food or money; and one of these days you’ll find something that just works.

So, that’s it, folks.  My six-step solution to simplifying meal planning and grocery shopping.  What do you think?  Let me know in the comments, and if you give it a try, I’d love to hear how it goes for you.

Oh, and if you can get ahold of Amy’s books, I highly recommend that you look at her suggestions for a price book, which takes this whole thing one step further and helps to save you money at the grocery store.

Blessings, Mindy